Margar-etiquette,

Is it better etiquette to say “yes, ma’am” or “yes, sir” to people that are older than you?

Dear Readers,

The use of “ma’am” and “sir” when addressing older individuals is rooted in traditional manners, especially in the South. While it remains a hallmark of respect for some, it has become less universally practiced in today’s more casual society.

Growing up, my parents did not insist on “ma’am” or “sir,” focusing instead on respectful speech overall—using “yes” and “no” instead of casual or dismissive responses like “yeah” or “uh-huh.” Even now, I occasionally hear young people use these terms, and when I do, it strikes me as polite and respectful. However, not everyone feels the same; some find it overly formal or associate it with being perceived as old.

So, is it necessary? Not at all. Using “ma’am” and “sir” is a personal choice, often shaped by upbringing. What matters most is the tone and respect behind the words. Whether you use these terms or not, the key is to communicate respectfully: make eye contact, avoid slang, and steer clear of dismissive or inattentive behaviors like mumbling or failing to respond.

Ultimately, etiquette is not about rigid rules—it’s about fostering respect and civility in our interactions. Choose the approach that aligns with your values while showing consideration for others.

Warm regards,
Margar-etiquette
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