UPDATED — Ben Nelms, 71, of Peachtree City, Ga., died Dec. 21 at Piedmont Newnan Hospital.
A veteran of The Citizen news operation for more than 15 years, his final byline in The Citizen online was a week ago, Dec. 14. He began reporting local news in Louisville, Ga. at The News & Farmer newspaper in 1998 and later moved to Peachtree City to work for The Citizen. For the past three years, he has covered what is known in the industry as the police beat.
Immediate family have been notified.
Arrangements are pending.
Benjamin “Ben” Scott Nelms, 71, a resident of Peachtree City, died Wednesday, December 21, 2022, at Piedmont Newnan Hospital.
Mr. Nelms was respected and loved by officials, friends, and readers in Jefferson and Fayette counties, where he served with the staffs of The News and Farmer and Jefferson Reporter and The Citizen newspapers during a 24-year career as a local journalist.
Mr. Nelms was born July 5, 1951, the first of four sons to Mack and Nan Smith Nelms. He moved with his family, following his father’s career with Southern Bell, from east Georgia to Cartersville, Rome, and finally, Decatur. His brother, Jon, fondly recalls roaming the forests around Rome, Georgia, where the boys carried sack lunches on day-long expeditions exploring creeks and springs, building forts, and waging dirt-clod wars with each other. He credits Ben’s innate sense of direction with getting them back home every night.
Mr. Nelms graduated from Columbia High School in Decatur. He met Gaye Crozier, the love of his life, at Winn Dixie where they worked together. He was in his first year of college and Gaye was a senior in high school when they met. The couple married in 1972 and continued their studies, with Mr. Nelms earning a bachelor’s degree in philosophy from Georgia State University.
In the 70s, Mr. Nelms and his wife were co-owners of a bar, The Downtown Cafe, which they managed for 10 years after they married. Their sons, Austin and Joshua, were born during these years. They both also worked for a company that provided social services to developmentally disabled persons during this time.
In the early 80s, Mr. Nelms moved his family to Maryland to accept a promising job offer that turned out to be a disappointment. For six months, he spent his days shoveling chicken manure. His family says he smelled so bad when he came home for lunch, they ate together at a picnic table outside of the house.
In search of better opportunities, the family crossed the country to join his brother, Jon, and his family in California. The two brothers’ wives sold avocados picked from a tree in their backyard in the Los Angeles area to help pay bills.
Soon after arriving in California, Mr. Nelms followed a lead from a newspaper he picked up on the cross-country drive from Maryland. As a result, he packed up again, loading 13 boxes into a U-Haul trailer. He pulled the trailer behind the family’s Volvo with his wife, a German shepherd, and the two boys in car seats. This adventure took them to Tucson, where he went to work as an entry-level line staff for Arizona Integrated Residential and Educational Services (AIRES).
Mr. Nelms and his wife divorced in 1984. He remained at AIRES, working his way to the number two position in the company, Director of Program Services, until 1995, when he moved back to Georgia and began caring for his aging parents in their home in the tiny town of Bartow.
He never remarried and remained lifelong best friends with Gaye. After he moved back to Georgia, Gaye called him for advice on running a day program she operated for developmentally disabled adults. She installed him as a Vice President of the Board of Directors for Tumbleweed Compadre (DTA), which became a family business with Mr. Nelms, Gaye, and their son, Austin. He remained active on the board for the rest of his life.
Meanwhile, in Jefferson County, he founded a companionship service for aging and disabled persons. While getting this business off the ground, he would visit the offices of The News and Farmer/The Jefferson Reporter in Louisville, where he placed ads and struck up conversations with the publisher, Joyce Beverly.
In 1998, he made a mid-life career change when Mrs. Beverly recruited him to join the newspaper’s small staff in Jefferson County as a reporter. He worked there until 2005, when he moved to Fayette County to join Mrs. Beverly, her husband, Cal, and the team at The Citizen.
He made a home and many, many friends in Fayette County, where he became a trusted, beloved local journalist, filing the last of well over 10,000 stories just a week before his death. In social media comments in the days after his passing, people posted the words kind, fair, respected, brilliant, and “a true character” over and over again. Numerous “long conversations with Ben” were also referenced.
In 2013, Mr. Nelms published a book, The First and Final Paradigm, a fictional story based on his experiences in nearly two decades of social services. In the book, the main character learns how his words, actions, and especially his thoughts define his life.
In the early 2000s, Mr. Nelms, Gaye, and his son, Austin, pioneered the “watch party,” enjoying Falcons games together via phone every Sunday. They observed this ritual almost without exception, watching the final game together from his hospital room three days before he died.
Friends agree that, above all, he was most proud of his sons. He was also pleased that people trusted him to report and help them understand what was happening in their communities. And he was proud to be an advocate for the disabled.
“The legacy you live is the legacy you leave,” Mr. Nelms is quoted as saying.
His legacy is carved onto the hearts of thousands. He will be missed.
Mr. Nelms is survived by his ex-wife, Gaye Austin Bianchi; his sons, Austin Nelms (Marcia), of Tucson, Arizona, and Joshua Nelms, of Grovetown, Georgia; three grandsons, Gavin Nelms, Solomon Nelms, and Ethan Nelms, of Evans;
Three brothers, David Nelms (Loretta), Durham, N.C., Jon Nelms (Nolin), Grovetown, Georgia, and Lewis Nelms (Leah), St. Simons;
And a host of nephews, nieces, and close friends.
A memorial service will be held at 11 am on Thursday, December 29, at Mowell Funeral Home Chapel, 200 Robinson Road, Peachtree City. The family will receive visitors from 10 am until 11 am. Except for his wedding day, no one can recall ever seeing Mr. Nelms wear a tie. Folks planning to attend the service are encouraged to follow his casual style.
A drop-in afternoon of “Ben Stories” will be held in Louisville, Georgia, on Saturday, December 31, at the home of Cal and Joyce Beverly, from 2 until 5 pm. Again: no ties.
I just heard about Ben and I want to express how sorry I am! My mom, Carolyn Cary, worked with Ben and I know they are together catching up on all the latest news now!
Rest in Peace, I’ve seen Ben at commission meetings, political events. He’s been out there getting the news for the county. He did put the J in journalism.
I’m shocked and sorry to hear about Ben’s passing. He was always friendly and fair in his reporting. He was always interesting to visit with and he was always up front and honest. Condolences and prayers to and for his family.
Oh, no! I’m taken aback and stunned. I was (AM) a fan of Ben’s reporting, and enjoyed visiting with him. Mr. Beverly, my condolences, sir.
Very Sad. I always looked forward to reading his reports on local crime, helping locals be aware of local crime safety issues.
My heart goes out to family.
What a shock! Ben was a wonderful writer, and a friend. A brilliant thinker. One of his most memorable quotes is: “The legacy you live is the legacy you leave.” Ben, you have left quite a legacy. You are missed. RIP
So very sorry to hear this news. I enjoyed reading his contributions.
I am saddened to learn of the passing of Mr.Nelms. My sympathy, heartfelt wishes and goodwill are extended to his family, friends, neighbors and colleagues, professional or otherwise. But, CAL, why has his passing involved an “above the fold” headline concluding with the fact that “family members have been notified” . Unless this is a subversive cover-up, family members are usually first notified before reporters at a small time “rag”. Why not be a bit more sensitive, understanding and compassionate and allow the family to share his passing as they choose? Just my opinion.
I’d be willing to lay money that Mr. Beverly has exercised sensitivity in his reporting about the death of his friend and close colleague. I suspect he knows a BIT more about the circumstances of his friend’s death and about the family notifications than either you or I. You could show some compassion by not criticizing him at a time of intense grief. You might wish to consider what it would be like for you to write the bulletin of a friend and colleague’s passing, only to have someone immediately and anonymously criticize it. Certainly suggestions for edits to his reporting could have been e-mailed to him privately. I – and I think most other readers – will have a hard time squaring your condolences, sympathy, and “goodwill,” against the reference to “a small time ‘rag’. (sic)” This “rag” would be the one Mr. Nelms wrote for and for which his colleagues to whom you extend sympathies, etc, continue to work? IF you are going to undertake such criticism at a time of mourning, you’d could at least demonstrate the intestinal fortitude and integrity to write under your own name rather than anonymously.
I agree with you, Eric. The entry by subrosa is definitely subpar.
It is terribly sad that, in this era of incivility, that even a death announcement can trigger an unnecessary uncivil and critical response.
Ben you will be missed.
So sad to lose such a legacy. My condolences to his family and those who knew him closely. After leaving the area for a military career in 2006, I’ve always enjoyed keeping tabs on the Peachtree City/Fayette county. Mr. Nelms’ articles were my go-to reads…he will be remembered and missed by this reader.
I also am saddened and sorry for this loss. Mr. Nelms was a valuable community asset, reporting his findings in a factual, objective, yet considerate way. Well done Mr. Nelms. Rest until we meet again.
A sad loss for our community. Unique perspectives and a personable guy. Be at rest, friend.
Very sad news. Ben was a great friend to me while I was serving on the School Board. He never betrayed my confidence and he was a wise and knowledgeable sounding board that I could call any time day or night. He always had a word of encouragement when I needed one and it was always great to see a friendly face in the audience – especially on those occasions when the audience was mostly unfriendly. Someone would say something ridiculous and he would look up and give me smile and a knowing wink as he scribbled on his pad. He was a good man who loved our community and wanted its best. Our conversations ran the gamut from philosophy/theology to politics to business.
Just yesterday, I was thinking that it was about time to give him a call. I wish I had followed that prompting. The loss is all mine. You will be missed, my friend.
Shocked and sad. I just texted him last week and was worried when no reply. Great guy.
My condolences to his family, friends, and coworkers. Grief is hard and missing someone is hard. May he rest in peace.
So sorry to hear of his passing.