There's a crisis

in Fayette County. Not a water crisis. Not a leadership crisis. Not a

traffic crisis. No, we have a crisis of legitimate sex. Husbands and wives

are not getting enough.

As one of the

most married counties in Georgia, I believe we have a crisis of dearth.

This crisis comes on a community filled with couples having their first

and second babies. For some reason, our women feel they are not as desirable

after giving birth to children as before giving birth. So, they become

cool to the idea of a hot night of pleasure.

The crisis

also comes on a community filled with couples that are both working at

killer jobs. They work all day and in the evening, leaving no energy left

for a little nighttime aerobics under the sheets.

Finally, the

crisis comes on a community filled with people who have a definite case

of aging. Despite plastic surgery, mud packs, and the local gym, gravity

and time do a number on our bodies which all the king's men and all the

king's horses can't repair. We sag in all the wrong places, making us

all think we don't deserve the youthful thrill of sex.

Now, if we

wanted to, we could go to the Good Book and see what it had to say. In

fact, since Valentine's Day is day after tomorrow, let's get all the help

we can to avert this growing crisis.

Allow me to

quote 1 Corinthians 7:1-4, "Now I will answer the questions that

you asked in your letter. You asked, 'Is it best for people not to marry?'

Well, having your own husband or wife should keep you from doing something

immoral. Husbands and wives should be fair with each other about having

sex. A wife belongs to her husband instead of to herself, and a husband

belongs to his wife instead of to himself. So don't refuse sex to each

other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to

spend time in prayer."

All across

Fayette and even into neighboring communities we have wives refusing sex

to their husbands and yes, husbands refusing sex to their wives for reasons

other than prayer. As a result, we have anger brewing in bedrooms, business

bustling in the brothels, and divorce lawyers reaping payoffs. In other

words, the Bible is clear: stop refusing one another.

Rarely do a

husband and wife want to have sex precisely at the same time. Hence, the

refusing. But, Christians, who are suppose to be about giving, should

stop refusing and give to our mate's content.

Yet, there

are steps we as lovers can take to prepare the way for better sex. The

most significant step for good sex is communication. Talking to one another,

more than you realize, will open the stores of sexuality for one another.

Don't you remember that your first romance was born in communication when

she said, "Mama, he actually talks to me and cares for what I think."

And he said, "Daddy, this girl has a head on her shoulders; she talks

and makes good sense."

All marriage

counselors will tell you the fastest way to enjoyable sex is authentic

conversation that demonstrates respect and honor for one another. All

the chocolate and champagne in the world won't do for the bedroom what

mutual respect and communication will do. So, let freedom preside in the

bedroom. Have fun. Play with one another. There are no limits for husband

and wife. Let your "child" nature out. Forget you are adults

and parents and businessmen and women. Leave your responsibilities outside

the bedroom or the backseat of the car, or the kitchen table.

Married folks,

the word for you is liberation. Take advantage of it. It's legal and moral

and spiritual! Indeed, have a sex-filled Valentines Day. Let's avert this

crisis!

John Hatcher is pastor of

Outreach International

Center

1091 South Jeff Davis

Drive

Fayetteville, Georgia

30215

770-719-0303

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