My Baptist father fixes my

mother a cup of coffee every morning. My Baptist husband

does the same for me. Our husbands love us, they don't

degrade us. We never given them reason, because - by

choice - we don't degrade ourselves.

Our KJV Bible tells our

husbands that it is their responsibility to support their

families. My mother and I never had to work. We chose to

work. If more men used the backbone God provided them,

more women might not resort to working at places like

Hooters - whether by choice or not.

If more women lived by the

standards God set before us, there may not even be a

place like Hooters. Yes, my mother, my daughters, and I

believe that the man is the head of the household. After

discussions within the family and a lot of prayer, they

make the decisions that our families live by, and they

shoulder the responsibility of those decisions -

good or bad.

We as Baptist women are to

be support for our men - a "help meet". We

are to help them stand, not be a doormat for them to wipe

their feet. God designed this during the creation.

Baptists didn't even exist way back then.

No, we don't believe women

should be pastors because God is very specific in the New

Testament (KJV) of how a church is to be operated and how

meetings are to be conducted. So far, I've not seen any

procedural changes handed down by God. I've seen a lot of

changes handed out by men, simply to suit the purpose

needed at the time.

The Baptist women I've

known throughout my entire life don't usually need

instructions from the Southern Baptist Convention. In

fact I don't put much stock in what the Convention does

or doesn't do. We get our instructions for living

straight from the source.

Mr. Stinson, if you want to

know how Baptists really live, pick up the instruction

book that God gave you. You may be surprised at what you

learn about the role these "degraded" women

have played throughout history. It could even change the

way you look at yourself as a man.

Virginia Buehl

Fayetteville