Ask Margar-etiquette about Talking During the Movie

Dear Margar-etiquette,

I am really annoyed by people talking in the movie theater. What’s the best way to quiet people who are being disruptive?

Silence is Golden

Dear Silence,

I hear you—nothing ruins a cinematic moment like someone chatting two rows behind you. But let’s take a closer look at the kind of “talking” we’re dealing with. Are we talking AT the movies or TALKING at the movies?

Some moviegoers choose the theater over the couch precisely for the shared experience. Reactions—gasping, whispering a warning to the screen, or laughing out loud—can actually add to the energy of a film. I’ve been right there myself: whispering “Don’t go in there!” and then groaning when she inevitably does. That kind of vocal reaction is part of what makes a packed theater fun.

But then there’s the other kind of talking.
Side conversations, phone calls, loud whispering, texting with the screen lit up like a lighthouse, or even scolding children loudly—those aren’t reactions, they’re interruptions. And yes, that’s just plain rude.

So what can you do?

A few suggestions:

• Start with a polite glance. Sometimes, all it takes is a meaningful look to help others recognize their environment and get the message across.
• If it continues, try a gentle approach. A quiet shhhh or “Would you mind keeping it down?” often does the trick.
• Get help if needed. If they ignore you or become confrontational, don’t escalate. Find a theater employee to step in—that’s part of their job.
  • But try not to start here. They may not even recognize that there is an issue. People appreciate you addressing them first, giving them a chance to self-correct before you ask for the manager. 

And of course, choose your timing carefully. Mid-scene may not be the moment for confrontation. But a quick word in a lull can work wonders.

Kindly (and Quietly),

Margar-etiquette

#LITA (Love Is The Answer)