Ask Margar-etiquette about What to Say about Dogs in Public

Dear Margar-etiquette,

I read your column on Dogs in Public Spaces. As someone who is very sensitive to dogs, can you please help me determine when it is appropriate to say something? And when I do, what should I say?

Dog Sensitive

Dear Dog Sensitive,

Thank you for your thoughtful question—and for reading the column. You are absolutely right to want guidance on how and when to speak up. Navigating the presence of animals in public spaces can be confusing, especially when it directly affects your health or comfort.

The definition of a pet in a public space can be surprisingly complex. It often depends on the specific context and location, and it’s important to distinguish between different types of animals, as they each have different legal rights and restrictions:

• Pets are companion animals, and their access to public spaces is limited. Most places require pets to be leashed, under control, and kept out of food service areas. “Pet-friendly” businesses or parks exist, but even there, guidelines are in place to ensure the comfort and safety of all.
  
• Service animals (typically dogs) are trained to perform specific tasks for individuals with disabilities. These animals are not considered pets under the law, and they are legally permitted in nearly all public areas—even those that normally prohibit animals.
  
• Emotional Support Animals (ESAs) offer comfort but are not trained to perform tasks. They generally don’t have the same public access rights as service animals.
  
• Therapy animals provide support to others in places like hospitals or schools, but are only allowed in public where they’ve been specifically invited.
  

So, when you see a dog in a public setting, it’s not always a “pet.” Still, unless it’s a clearly identified service animal, you’re within your rights to ask questions, especially if its presence is causing you discomfort.

If you’re in a store, restaurant, or other business, it’s best to approach a staff member rather than the dog’s owner directly. You might say, “Hi, I have a sensitivity to dogs and noticed one nearby. Could you clarify your policy or help address the situation?” This keeps the tone respectful and gives the business a chance to respond appropriately.

In casual outdoor settings, if a dog is off-leash where it shouldn’t be or is approaching you, a polite but direct request like, “Would you mind keeping your dog closer? I’m not comfortable around dogs,” is absolutely reasonable.

You deserve to feel safe and respected in shared spaces. The key is to speak up with both clarity and courtesy. That’s the sweet spot where etiquette and self-advocacy meet.

Love is the answer,

Margar-etiquette