The lost boys

I sat in the interview room at the state prison waiting to speak to a man who had been convicted of attempted murder. When he arrived, I could see the same sheepish, skeptical, and frightened look I’ve seen on hundreds of faces. Nobody trusts anybody in prison. He had no idea why he was in […]

Belief in guilt isn’t conviction

It started with Harvey Weinstein. If you haven’t been following the news in the past few months, Weinstein has been a Hollywood producer and power broker for decades. Allegations began appearing in the media in October that he had sexually harassed and/or abused numerous actresses over the course of his career. As more and more […]

Can we agree on gun safety?

The tragedy in Las Vegas some weeks ago stunned the nation. The sheer number of victims wounded and killed dwarfs any shooting anywhere in the world in history. I’m hesitant to say much about the “superlative” because I don’t want to give any press to the perpetrator, but the facts are what they are. We […]

Don’t offend me

You would have to be a hermit living in a far-away cave somewhere not to be aware of the political correctness debates going on in our country these days. As a parent and child therapist for many years, I find odd how many times we would address a conflict or behavior with children and yet […]

Hate speech and our country

The march in Charlottesville is nothing new. Fortunately, since the inception of the Klan in the later decades of the 1800s, these now generally marginalized individuals have been moved further and further into the fringes of society. The best response to these hateful individuals is to ignore them. They only have power when put in […]

Ideas for summer reading

Summer often brings us hours at home with children, time for sitting beside the pool, or leisurely spending time on a beach, on a cruise, in airports, or in a summer cabin. Several times over the years I resolved on New Year’s Day to read a book a week. I’ve never regretted it when I’ve […]

Who is responsible?

I just finished reading a wonderful book entitled “Shattered.” This book follows the Hillary Clinton campaign from its inception through post-election. The 2016 presidential campaign is one that will get significant attention in history books. It was the first time a woman had a legitimate shot at becoming president and the first time a complete […]

How do you know she’s a witch?

“How do you know she’s a witch?” “She looks like one.” This comedic interchange from the classic movie “Monty Python and the Holy Grail” is supposed to be satire, but these days, I’m not so sure. Recently, a sponsor boycott ended the TV program of political commentator Bill O’Reilly, the FOX channel’s most successful show. […]

Simple rules for living

Some 15 years ago, Robert Fulghum wrote a book entitled “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten.” His work struck a chord with readers and it has been a best seller for many years. After 13 years of college and graduate education and another 20-something in my profession, I’ve learned that life […]

The truth about tolerance, Part II

In my last column I addressed how the overuse of the terms such as racism and sexism have rendered them practically meaningless. The pursuit of tolerance supposedly is the method for ending various “isms,” but like these other terms, it has been overused and misused to the point that I don’t think most people even […]

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